Thursday, September 23, 2010

Thought Busters

I like the following article by John Maxwell on nurturing ideas.



Thought Busters by Dr. John C. Maxwell

The power of thought is indisputably great. For illustration, look at the life of Henry David Thoreau, a 19th-century Massachusetts philosopher.

In 1849, Thoreau, as a relatively unknown scholar, published his thoughts in a controversial essay about civil disobedience. The essay expressed his ideas about justice:

  • Not all laws are just.

  • A person should respect justice more than the law.

  • Without resorting to violence, a person of conscience is justified to transgress the law to protest its injustice.

Thoreau's thoughts, as the basis for nonviolent resistance, would end up fueling two of the greatest social advancements of the 20th century—Ghandi's struggle to free India from Britain's colonial rule and the American Civil Rights Movement led by Martin Luther King, Jr.

Thoughts about Thinking

Thoughts never begin fully formed.

Have you ever looked through a microscope? At first glance, the image appears blurry and indistinct. However, after adjusting the lens, the image comes into focus, and you can see with remarkable clarity.

When thoughts enter my mind, they are hazy and disordered, much like the initial image seen through a microscope. I have to fine-tune my thoughts by dwelling upon them, and connecting them to other thoughts I've had. It takes awhile for me to wrestle with a thought before its merit becomes clear.

Thoughts take time to develop their potential.

I am not a naturally brilliant thinker. My mind doesn't overflow with out-of-the-box creativity. However, I do leverage experiences to stretch my thoughts. I have found that reflection turns my experience into insight. At the close of each day, I'll review important lessons I've learned. I'll mine failure until I've gained a nugget of wisdom, or I'll consider how the day's events validated or invalidated one of my ideas. Through time, evaluating my experiences helps my thoughts to expand and mature.

Thoughts take others to develop their potential.

Alone, my thoughts are shallow and unexceptional. However, I am able to polish and refine them through my interactions with other leaders. I enhance my own thinking by piggybacking on the wisdom of friend and colleagues. In conversations or observations of their behavior, I strengthen and confirm my own inklings about leadership and life.

Each of us is trapped inside our own perspective and limited by blind spots and prejudices. If we isolate ourselves, we diminish our minds, and our thoughts atrophy.

We are wise to seek out others to test our assumptions and sharpen our thinking.

Thoughts are very fragile in the beginning.

Gardeners know the delicate nature of a newly planted seedling. To survive, the plant must receive nourishment and be protected from harsh winds, weeds, or hungry animals. Until its roots take hold and its stem grows, the seedling is vulnerable.

Likewise, our thoughts are fragile at first. They are endangered by pessimism, busyness, insecurity, forgetfulness, and a host of other threats. In the words of Bob Biehl, “Ideas are like soap bubbles floating in the air close to jagged rocks on a windy day.”

In order to grow, our thoughts need careful attention and cultivation.

Thought Busters

Thoughts only reach their potential in a healthy environment. During my time as a leader, I've encountered the following environmental hazards, or thought busters, which threaten to destroy good thinking.

Criticism

When leaders pay any cost to ward off criticism, they sacrifice their best thoughts. In the words of Elbert Hubbard, "If you have something others don't have, know something others don't know, or do something others aren't doing, then, rest assured, you will be criticized." In my opinion, thinking requires boldness, the courage to be second-guessed, and readiness to endure conflict.

Lack of personal commitment to thinking

Taking action is by no means a negative quality in a leader. However, when a leader is all action, it's only a matter of time until he or she falls behind, steers off course, and surrenders the reins of leadership. I like Gordon MacDonald's appeal to mental fitness:

"In our pressurized society, people who are out of shape mentally usually fall victim to ideas and systems that are destructive to the human spirit and to the human relationship. They are victimized because they have not taught themselves how to think, nor have they set themselves to the lifelong pursuit of growth of the mind. Not having the faculty of a strong mind, they grow dependent upon the thoughts and opinions of others."

As leaders, thinking keeps us in front. Before we shape the future, we must get our minds in shape.

Excuses

"I don't have enough time," has been my most common excuse to avoid thinking. However, blaming time constraints is not a legitimate excuse. After all, a great idea is one of the greatest commodities a person can own. Besides, by taking the time to think, we invent smarter ways to expend our energy and resources.

"I'm not creative," has been another excuse of mine. Of course, blaming my lack of creativity is actually a sorry excuse for being lazy. Thinking well isn't easy. It takes concentration, focus, and, most challenging of all, the discipline to stop moving for a few moments.

John C. Maxwell is an internationally respected leadership expert, speaker, and author who has sold more than 18 million books. Dr. Maxwell is the founder of EQUIP, a non-profit organization that has trained more than 5 million leaders in 126 countries worldwide. A New York Times, Wall Street Journal and Business Week best-selling author, Maxwell has written three books that have sold more than a million copies.

Monday, September 06, 2010

Hostage-taking at a Kid's Level

Yesterday afternoon, sept 5, my wife and I, with a bunch of young people, went to visit a friend in a hospital. Since I recall that there was a rule against small children visiting hospital premises, we left our youngest boys, Jojo and Jed, to play with schoolmates at the subdivision where our church meets to worship every Sunday.

Pagdating namin galing visit, dumating ang bunso kong si Jed na umiiyak. Napag-alaman namin na sinaktan daw siya ng kalaro niya. Mukhang away-bata lang naman at di dapat makialam ang mga matatanda.

Nang pinakwento na namin kung ano ang nangyari, nanood pala sila o naglaro sa loob ng bahay ng kaklase. Habang nandoon, biglang umulan nang malakas at matagal. Tapos, may baril-barilan pala ang kalaro nina Jed na naubusan ng bala. Dahil bawal lumabas ang kapatid niya (umuulan nga eh), pinalalabas niya either si Jed or si Jojo para bumili ng bala. Dahil umuulan nga, eh, hindi sila lumabas para bumili. Nainis ang may-ari ng baril. "Kung hindi kayo lalabas, sasaktan ko kayo." Eh, umuulan nga. So, kinuha niya ang remote at pinalo sa kamay ang anak ko. Noong time na yun, wala munang reaksyon. Pero nang lumabas na sila dahil pinatawag na namin, saka siya umiyak.

Bakit ako nagre-react nang ganito? Kasi nakita ko na na-hostage ang mga anak ko ng isang bata, at sa huli nag-snap ang hostage-taker at sinaktan niya ang anak ko. Bata pa lang naman. Laruan lang. Pero there are principles and lessons for life dito. Let me try to enumerate some:
  1. Kung ikaw ay may hawak ng kapangyarihan, ang pang-aapi ay kasuklam-suklam. Huwag abusuhin ang position of strength. Kailan ba tuturuan ang mga future presidents na absolute power corrupts absolutely? Saan kaya natutunan ng batang ito na mang-hostage?
  2. Kung ikaw ay pinagtitiwalaan, huwag mo namang abusuhin ang tiwala. Akala ng anak ko, friend niya ang kaklase. Hindi pala. Bully. Sabi ni Jesus, "It is better for you to be thrown into a lake with a millstone around your neck rather than cause one of these little ones to sin." If my son sinned in his heart dahil sa ginawa sa kanya, this other boy should be thrown into a lake.
  3. When you invite someone to your house and thus enjoys your hospitality, lumampas ka na sa nararapat kung sinaktan mo ang bisita mo. Ganyan ba ang trato sa bisita? There's a cardinal rule for hospitality that the visitor is safe in your house.
  4. Para naman sa anak ko, magtitiwala pa ba siya sa ibang tao? Trust is a precious thing, and trust abused is hard to repair. Unless you are gracious or a fool. So, alin kaya dito ang anak ko?
  5. Kapag inaapi ang kapatid mo, doing nothing is saying something. You are agreeing to a despicable situation.
  6. Abusers start small. Who knows what form of abuse will come next.
  7. Etc. I'm still thinking of some more.
I have had a talk with my sons about this. We'll continue over the following days.