Lessons from A Tavern

Mga kapatid,

Kaya siguro ganun na lang katindi ang appeal ng inuman sa mga Pilipinong lalaki ay baka dahil sa nadiskubre ni kapatid Chuck Swindoll. What do you think?

Nathan

Chuck Swindoll writes...

An old Marine Corps buddy of mine, to my pleasant surprise, came to know Christ after he was discharged. I say surprise because he cursed loudly, fought hard, chased women, drank heavily, loved war and weapons, and hated chapel services.

A number of months ago, I ran into this fellow, and after we'd talked awhile, he put his hand on my shoulder and said, "You know, Chuck, the only thing I still miss is that old fellowship I used to have with all the guys down at the tavern. I remember how we used to sit around and let our hair down. I can't find anything like that for Christians. I no longer have a place to admit my faults and talk about my battles—where somebody won't preach at me and frown and quote me a verse."

It wasn't one month later that in my reading I came across this profound paragraph: "The neighborhood bar is possibly the best counterfeit that there is to the fellowship Christ wants to give his church. It's an imitation, dispensing liquor instead of grace, escape rather than reality—but it is a permissive, accepting, and inclusive fellowship. It is unshockable. It is democratic. You can tell people secrets, and they usually don't tell others or even want to. The bar flourishes not because most people are alcoholics, but because God has put into the human heart the desire to know and be known, to love and be loved, and so many seek a counterfeit at the price of a few beers. With all my heart," this writer concludes, "I believe that Christ wants his church to be unshockable, a fellowship where people can come in and say, 'I'm sunk, I'm beat, I've had it.' Alcoholics Anonymous has this quality—our churches too often miss it."

Now before you take up arms to shoot some wag that would compare your church to the corner bar, stop and ask yourself some tough questions, like I had to do. Make a list of some possible embarrassing situations people may not know how to handle.

Your mate talks about separation or divorce. To whom do you tell it?

Your daughter is pregnant and she's run away—for the third time. She's no longer listening to you. Who do you tell that to?

You lost your job, and it was your fault. You blew it, so there's shame mixed with unemployment. Who do you tell that to?

Financially, you were unwise, and you're in deep trouble. Or a man's wife is an alcoholic. Or something as horrible as getting back the biopsy from the surgeon, and it reveals cancer, and the prognosis isn't good. Or you had an emotional breakdown. To whom do you tell it?

We're the only outfit I know that shoots its wounded. We can become the most severe, condemning, judgmental, guilt-giving people on the face of planet Earth, and we claim it's in the name of Jesus Christ. And all the while, we don't even know we're doing it.

That's the pathetic part of it all.

-- Charles Swindoll, Leadership, Vol. 4, no. 1.

Isang Panawagan

The following is my version of an email forwarded to me:

Ako ay isang middle class Pinoy, isang editor sa isang di-kalakihang publisher at may asawa...apat na anak. Di na importante pangalan ko kasi parepareho naman tayong mga middle-class....trabaho 9-5, meryenda fishball tapos uwi sa pamilya sa dasma, cavite, laruin si misis, kamustahin si JJ, JoyJoy, Jojo, at Jed, nood tv konti, tapos tulog na. pag wala na pera intay na lang ng sweldo.

Sa nangyayari ngayon sa ating bansa, lahat na lang ng sector ay maingay at naririnig, tayo lang mga middle-class, tax paying at productive Pinoys ang di naririnig. Subalit, buwis natin ang nagpapaikot sa bansang ito. Pag may mga gulo na nangyayari, tayo ang tinatamaan. Kaya eto ang liham ko sa lahat ng maiingay na sector na sana makagising sa inyong bulag na pag-iisip.

Sa Mga Politiko:

Diyos ko naman, sa dami na nang nakurakot ninyo di na ba kayo makuntento? kelangan nyo pa ba manggulo?

Sa Administrasyon:

Hayan ayus na ha pinatawad na namin ang pandaraya nyo sa eleksyon, pruweba dito e di kami umaatend sa mga panawagan ng people power,

kaya sana naman gantihan nyo kami ng magandang serbisyo at magaling na pamumuno at malaking bawas sa kurakot naman please para kahit papano maramdaman naman namin na may napupuntahan ang binabayad naming buwis.

Sa Oposisyon:

Di nyo pa ba nakikita na dalawang klase lang ng tao ang nakikinig sa inyo....

isa ay bayaran na mahihirap kungdi man ay tangang mga excited na reporter na parang naka-shabu lagi....mga praning e at naghahallucinate. Bago man lang kayo maglunsad ng kilos laban sa administrasyon, pumili muna kayo ng magiting at nararapat na ipapalit sa liderato ngayon. Hirap sa inyo paresign kayo ng paresign wala naman kayo ipapalit na maayos. Advise lang galing sa isang middle-class na syang tunay na puwersa sa likod ng lahat ng matagumpay na People Power, magpakita muna kayo ng galing bago nyo batuhin ang administrasyon. Wala na kaming narinig sa inyo kundi reklamo, e wala naman kayong ginagawa kundi magreklamo....para kayong batang lagi na lang naaagawan ng laruan.....GROW UP naman...sa isip sa salita at sa gawa.

Please lang gasgas na rin ang pagrarally nyo na katabi nyo ay mga bayaran na mahihirap, magtayo nalang kayo ng negosyo at iempleyo ang mga rallyista para maging productive silang mamamayan. Sige nga, pag nagrarally kayo yakapin nyo nga at halikan yang mga kasama nyong nagrarally!! Nung People Power namin nagyayakapan kami lahat nuon. Wala naman mangyayari sa mga rally nyo nakakatraffic lang, kami pang middle-class ang napeperwisyo. Di nyo kayang paghintayin ng 3 araw ang mga rallyista nyo kasi kelangan nyo pakainin at swelduhan ang mga yan. Kung gusto nyo tagumpay na People Power kami ang isama nyo....pero pagod na kami e, sori ha.

Sa Military:

Alam nyo lahat tayo may problema, pati US Army may problema, 2,000 plus na patay sa kanila sa Iraq na parang walang rason naman, pero nakita nyo ba sila nagreklamo? Wala diba kasi professional sila na sundalo.....

yan dapat ang sundalo di nagtatanong sumusunod lang. Kasi may mga bagay na di kayang maintindihan ng indibidwal lamang, at ang mga nakatataas lang angnakakaintindi ng kabuuan, kaya ito ang panuntunan ng lahat ng military ng lahat ng bansa. Pero parang military natin yata ang pinaka-mareklamo. Sabi nga sa Spiderman "with great power comes great responsibility"..... kaya maging spiderman kayo lahat at protektahan ang mamamayan. Sa totoo lang natatakot kami kapag nagrereklamo kayo, kasi may baril kayo at tangke, kami wala.

Wala ako comment sa mga mahihirap, di naman kasi sila maingay na kusa e, may bayad ang ingay nila. Saka wala rin naman silang email.

Kaya paano na tayong mga middle-class?? Eto hanggang email na lang tayo kaya ikalat nyo na ito at magdasal tayo na umabot ito sa mga dapat makabasa nito at makiliti naman ang kanilang mga konsyensya.

Signed,

Isang Middle-Class Pinoy na walang puknat na binabawasan ang sweldo ng Buwis!

Mensahe ng Isang Pugad

May isang ibon na naligaw sa paggawa ng pugad nya sa harap ng bahay namin sa Dasma Cavite. May tanim doon na isang bush, madahon din. Wala na siguro siyang mahanap na puno o type nya lang talaga sa amin kasi di namin binabato ang mga ibon. We like to see God's creatures. Anyway, akala ko nagkamali lang. Isang araw, may nag-appear na nesting material na medyo pabilog na ang porma sa singit ng maliit na branch. "O, bakit nandito ito?” “Sweetheart, tingnan mo may nest, o.”

“Oo nga, ano? Ang cute! Oy Jed, h’wag mong sirain!!!” Jed is our youngest.

“What a stupid bird,” sabi ko. Pero teka. Naalala ko yung sa Matt. 6 about the birds. Sabi doon,

6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry¹ about your life, what you will eat or drink, or about your body, what you will wear. Isn’t there more to life than food and more to the body than clothing? 6:26 Look at the birds in the sky:² They do not sow, or reap, or gather into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds³ them. Aren’t you more valuable⁴ than they are? 6:27 And which of you by worrying can add even one hour to his life?⁵ (Matt. 6:25-27, NET Bible)

Siguro, in some mysterious way, pinadala ng Lord ang ibon to us tell us that he oversees the details of where that bird would set up her nest. Did she know we were kind people who would not harm the nest and the nestlings, kung sakali? No. Did she get permission from the village administrator just in case she violated the statement of limitations ng homeowners association? Nope. The nest is hidden, at hindi naman makikita kung di mo alam. Pwera na lang kung maingay siya.

And last night, meron nang isang egg. Mabubuhay kaya yon? Papaano lilimliman ng inahin? I don’t know. But God says he knows and he cares.

Thinking more about it, palagay ko there is a deeper meaning doon. Kasi, kung iisipin mo, saan hahantong ang ginagawa ng bird? Yung egg ba ay magha-hatch o maa-abort? Anong mangyayari sa nest? May relation kasi ito sa devotion namin sa office last Monday. May nag-share about legacy and the significance of what one is doing for God. Maganda kung ang ginagawa mo ay significant for the kingdom. Pero mas maganda kung naipasa mo sa ibang magpapatuloy ng vision na binigay ni Lord. Ang isa sa pinaka-poignant ay kung naipasa mo sa mga anak mo ang vision ni Lord. Ang struggle lang ng nag-share ay wala siyang anak na lalaki. He had always wanted a son to disciple and bring up in the Lord.

The following is a poem I lifted from a workbook on leadership we are studying at the office.

Just Suppose

by Phil Hodges from the book Lead Like Jesus: Beginning the Journey (published in the Philippines by Church Strengthening Ministry, with permission from Thomas Nelson, Inc., 2003), p. 135.

Just suppose, when I pray, there really is someone listening who cares about me and wants to know what's on my mind

Just suppose, when I pray, it changes me and my view of how the universe operates and who is involved

Just suppose, I put my doubts aside for a minute and consider the possibility that someone who knew me before I was born loves me, warts and all, without condition or reservation, no matter how badly I have behaved in the past.

Just suppose, a prayer was my first response instead of my last resort when facing a new challenge or an old temptation.

Just suppose, I lived each day, knowing that there is an inexhaustible supply of love for me to pass along to others.

Just suppose.

Notes:

1Or “do not be anxious,” and so throughout the rest of this paragraph.

2Grk “the birds of the sky” or “the birds of the heaven”; the Greek word ούρανός (ouranos) may be translated either “sky” or “heaven,” depending on the context. The idiomatic expression “birds of the sky” refers to wild birds as opposed to domesticated fowl (cf. BDAG 809 s.v. πετεινόν).

3Or “God gives them food to eat.” L&N 23.6 has both “to provide food for” and “to give food to someone to eat.”

4Grk “of more value.”

5Or “a cubit to his height.” A cubit (πήχυς, phēcus") can measure length (normally about 45 cm or 18 inches) or time (a small unit, “hour” is usually used [BDAG 812 s.v.] although “day” has been suggested [L&N 67.151]). The term ήλικία (hēlikia) is ambiguous in the same way as πήχυς (phēcus). Most scholars take the term to describe age or length of life here, although a few refer it to bodily stature (see BDAG 436 s.v. 3 for discussion). Worry about length of life seems a more natural figure than worry about height. However, the point either way is clear: Worrying adds nothing to life span or height.